Any and all relationships have chemistry. When you have a fantastic date, it’s not entirely unusual to say something like, “Our chemistry was spot on.” This can apply to friendships as well as dating relationships, and even with colleagues and co-workers. Chemistry to a factor in relationships, and you can read how here. There are 6 types of chemistry that can make or break your relationships. Do you know what they are?
6 Types of Chemistry that will make Your Relationships Soar
Personality: You may have heard of the Myers-Briggs test. According to this assessment, there are 16 types of personalities that combine 4 traits (from a possible 8). A detailed summary from a dating perspective can be viewed here, but it can also apply to working relationships and friendships too.
Lifestyle: A common way to determine lifestyle is knowing how introverted or extroverted you are. Introverts appreciate alone time while extroverts like to socialize constantly.
Sexual: You knew this one was coming, didn’t you? You’ll know it when you’re sexually attracted to someone. And you’ll definitely know it when they feel the same way about you!
Spiritual: Some people prioritize their spirituality, and others don’t. Spiritual connection can be a huge factor in a relationship if both parties take it seriously. This can also apply to your moral values.
Intellectual: Having an intellectual conversation with others is a promising way to grow a relationship. Some couples like to have deep conversations on a daily basis while others are okay with simply being in each other’s presence, no verbal communication is necessary.
Financial: While talking about finances may not be a common occurrence, it’s still worth mentioning because it does affect daily activity and socialization.
So how can these different elements make your relationship soar? Now that you know what the different types of chemistry are, you can learn how to apply them to your current and future relationships. Here is a simple step-by-step process to look deeper into your relationships, sexual or platonic.
1. Determine which types of chemistry are a priority for you.
What matters to you? Is it important to you to have a partner that wants to try different sexual positions with you? Do you want someone who is willing to save some money and stay home? Depending on what you want out of relationship, you should be able to figure out what matters most.
2. Experience these types of chemistry with your partner.
Don’t be afraid to talk to others about what matters to you in a relationship or friendship. Share different experiences with the people in your life. How does your partner react to conflict? What happens when you disagree? Determining answers to these questions will help you figure out which areas of chemistry you need to work on.
3. Get to know yourself.
Besides getting to know others, you should get to know yourself too. Building relationships are not an overnight process, you have to work towards them! That includes your relationship with yourself.
4. Chemistry can change over time. Adjust accordingly.
Your opinions, your values, and your lifestyle may change over the course of your life. That’s why some friendships end. It’s simply a fact of life. Don’t stress when it happens. Just move forward, and keep focusing on your positive relationships, and work towards making them stronger.
There are several types of chemistry that affect your relationships… some of them factor in all six types while others may only include some. Either way, you should observe if these chemistry types are present in your relationships. Ask yourself what your priorities are. If you want to stay on budget each month, then consider financial chemistry more than spiritual. If you want someone to be willing to travel the world with you, then look at lifestyle chemistry more closely than intellectual.
What do you think about these types of chemistry? Are they affecting your relationships positively or negatively?